Love/Addiction Or Love Addiction

Love/Addiction or Love Addiction

The Ancient Greeks already described “mania” as one of the forms of love. It’s an obsessive and long-lasting love. It usually exaggerates the meaning and the importance of the feeling. Very often it leads to strong emotional shocks and dramas. It seeks for the total possession and control over partner, although it can be heroic and self-sacrificing. Nowadays this form of love exists but it has become less dramatic. Love addiction is when we say I love him/her too much, I can’t let him/her go, it’ when we are ready to suffer, see our love being abused but still ready to forgive everything because of a terrible fear to lose the one we love.
The partner becomes the centre and the meaning of their whole life. And in the basics of it all lays not the love, but the fear that can take its roots in early childhood when a future love addict didn’t get enough love and attention, and now he/she’s trying to fill that space being very scared to return to that loneliness of a child. In this “mania” relationships there’s very often nothing left to call love, these relationships don’t bring comfort, pleasure or support as they’re supposed to do, but only pain and sufferings.These love addicts may even realize it but they don’t have strength to leave. A Love Addicted person is ready to do almost everything if it can be necessary or useful to his/her partner. There is nothing too expensive, unpleasant or time consuming if it makes him/her happy.

These love addicts can be very nervous and depressive and willing to gain control over their partner too.The reason is that they aren’t enough self-confident and these possessive relationships could be an attempt to prove they are worth something.

Most of all love addicts are scared that the relationship will be ruined because, it seems to them like they won’t be able to live without their partner ,so they are ready to bear selfishness, indifference, cruelty, disgrace. Most of the "Possessed to Love" try to convince themselves that all these “minuses” are temporary and that their partner is just having hard time at the moment, and once it’s over he/she will se everything that has been done for them and will turn to be very thankful. . They may ignore all the good people around them that are willing to give their love and attention.

By the way, it’s Women who suffer from love addiction more than men. Addictive men usually become obsessed with their job or hobby. The worst variant is drugs and alcohol. And the addictive women usually choose such men as a cross to berry.

The only way to get rid of such an addiction is to fight all the fears and to quit these obsessive and destructive relationships, to prove yourself that you’re worth much more. Relationships are never supposed to be a one-way street, love is giving but normally it gets much in return. The problem is that the love addiction can be a very serious problem repeating from one relationship to the other so that a person isn’t even able to solve it without professional help.

Watever is said was right in my conscience though people have varying opinions.