Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Break Up to Make Up

Moving on from a break up to getting back together with an ex is by no means an easy thing to accomplish, but hopefully with some helpful tips, you should be able to do so with relatively less problems and with more ease.

Although not a great deal of people focus too much on the transitioning process from a break-up to getting back together, it still is a vital part of the whole getting back together process. If you'd like to successfully get together with your ex, you want to learn how to change well in order to avoid any problems that will arise later on. Here are a couple of things that might help you transition smoothly from a break-up to getting back together.

Acknowledge The Break Up

Acknowledging that you and your ex are already damaged up will change a heap simpler since this can make you understand that you are really not together any more, and is the reason why you want to come to a resolution with your ex, and if you're in a position to solve the problem, then you can pursue to get together with your ex.

It is in this process that you will understand why you broke up with your ex, which in turn will help you figure out how to get to a resolution for your break up.

Forgive And Forget

If you hope to be able to successfully move on from a break up to getting back together, you and your ex need to learn how to forgive each other for your faults and shortcomings in your past relationship, and forget that part of your past so you can begin rebuilding your relationship and start anew. Getting back together without ironing out this part in your past will only result in another failed relationship later on since unresolved issues such as this will only resurface in your future relationship later on.

Create A Resolution

After speaking to one another referring to issues in your relationship that requires resolving, you want to both come up with a resolution for you to be ready to move on to your new relationship, if it is by coming up with an accommodation between you and your ex, or by changing some aspects in your relationship. It can alter depending on each relationship, as well as on the factors that was the cause of relationship to fail formerly.

Start Anew

Once you and your ex have concluded on a resolution, it is vital to recollect that you are beginning anew, meaning that though you both were in a relationship before, it does not imply that you can evade the getting back together process and simply be a pair straight away. Since your prior relationship has failed, it is safe to assert that beginning anew is the neatest thing for you and your ex to do, so make the effort to start to know one another once more simply to start things off.

There are no shortcuts in getting back together, but if you are sincere in making a previously failed relationship work this time around, then you should seriously consider taking your time in making it work, and hopefully change better from being broken up to being back together.

6 comments:

  1. It's true dat wen u have them u think it wud have been better if they wud have rolled acc to ur degrees...but wen they go...u want them to come bak even if they cant adjust ...and wen they come bak u start reconsidering ur decision that atleast they could have adjusted by some degrees bit by bit......
    So i agree with wat YOU have beautifully said "You cant simply be a pair straight away" Its a process and more gravely ought to cover each milestones from acknowledging the break up to start anew.


    Its true there are no shortcuts to getting bak together......u have to ACTUALLY,SINCERELY WORK on it.
    I wish u wud have written this 4 years ago so my journey from breakup to makeup wud have atleast existed.I am sure ppl wud get a heap of learning outta this article...
    Keep writing.......

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  2. Nice... Well written. Bt i dont acknowledge the sense it portrays... The very fact that its a FAILED relationship says it all.... And that it cant be set right again.. And even if you take all the world's efforts to get back, am sure the discomfort will keep wriggling in you atleast in sum corner of ur mind and heart, though u wont mind being an hypocrat at that time and ty to convince urself that you have forgotten and forgiven all that had happened,it wont happen for a long time.... It will definitely hit the dust in the long run and will start scrapping out the old rust again...!!!!! So, IMO, i feel, a failed relationship shud hav been left to remain as a failed one itself and not to try to mend it, as it gets to hurt us much more than wat it did. As sumone rightly said, A FAILED RELATIONSHIP IS LIKE A BROKEN GLASS PIECE, U BETTER LEAVE IT AS IT IS, THAN TRYNG TO MEND IT AND HURT UR HAND....

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  3. Its nice to read about mending the past relation...but i feel its not that easy to forget n forgive...and then if i had already failed in past...this very fact can never make it work again...once u enter in a bad fight again...all the pain of past will evolve again...so the only way out is be good friends and not lovers again :)

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  4. Nice written priye but i personally dont believe in this....because even if u try to put your heart n soul to make it work, you ll always have a doubt in some corner of your heart, u might ignore it at tht time but wont be able to do it for a long time....its never possible to forgive n forget because we humans have a tendency of DIGGING up all the past records when we fight ....and as far as Resolution is concerned, i dont think tht it is a resolution its just a compromise and its not possible to rebuild a broken relationship on compromise.

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  5. Nicely written article. I guess you have got better with each post of yours. Couldn't relate to this post though..Break-up toh tab hoga na..jab koi hoga..yaad hai..asian institute of committed and reserved..Anyways looking forward to your next post..May suggest some topic for the next post..why not right some thing about people who are unlucky with love?.. :)

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  6. very aptly written and very true..but i guess its always easier said than done..in real life things are way more complicated, people way more confused and a handful of the chunk actually civilized enough to give it another shot and work it out..in most of the cases where the break ups are not mutual the person breaking up has been trying to get out of the relationship for a while..so very few people wanna travel the same road again..but i know its the most difficult thing to let go of something you have wanted and treasured forever and sometimes the void just remains..whether u want to fight and get it back on track or just let go for the best is a decision u gotto make..:)

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