Ok. I have been thinking to write about this one for the longest time now.. I was recently at a friends place when the discussion about "How real you act or are when drunk"..And so started the discussion. Since i was not drunk, so it was interesting to listen to the points they had to say in their defence.
I will first discuss the point they spoke off and then come to my opinion on it(they said i was just "sitting on the fence". We will come to that a bit later).
It's complicated:
This thought was shared by a guy I have known for past 6 years now..He said that when a person is drunk he loses his inhibitions and lets his guard down. He also loses a lot of his rational judgement(big word). The thoughts and wishes that people have when they are sober come out when they are intoxicated. Many of us have seen the shy man who is afraid to talk to a woman when he is sober, but becomes an instant ladies man when fueled by alcohol. So in a nutshell he wanted us to believe that drunk confessions are true...
It's more of an exaggerated, uninhibited version of ourselves:
The other guy had some different thoughts on it. He said we potray ourselves the way we want to. Stuff that we can normally ball up inside of us and not show anyone. But when alcohol removes that filter, Mr. Nasty can come out and play.I wouldn't call Mr. Nasty our "true selves". He's one piece of our personality, and our true selves have enough wisdom and control to keep him hidden as much as possible.
I, like any other sober person was enjoying the conversation to the core, till the time I was asked for my opinion.. Hmm... my opinion... my point of view.. I agree that guys guard their feelings because they know that women can remember every little word in every unimportant conversation they ever had with anyone, and are quick to throw it up in their face at a moments notice just to win an argument.....therefore they learn quickly to keep their thoughts to themselves...alcohol just lowers their shields.
My point:
I have been at the receiving end of drunk dialing many times. Initially I thought it was all true, and trust me I still want to believe it, but sooner I realised I was just being a jerk(purely my thoughts)and the only suggestion that I can give is, if you want a man to confide in you, keep anything he ever says to yourself, and don't repeat it back to him, or anyone else.He may have liked you when he was drunk, it does not mean he feels the same when he is sober.
Alcohol is NOT a "truth serum".
Go by how he behaves when he is sober and NOT when he is drunk.
Regardless of whether 'in vino veritas' (translation: 'there is truth in wine') I think one of the reasons that we drink is because we have unfinished thoughts. This thought can be true or a lie depending on what your thought is.
ReplyDeleteTrue story. Completely agree with the premise!
ReplyDeleteAmazin yar... Realy gud ya... It is a "Must Read"...
ReplyDeleteI guess this entire screenplay, sounds like Deja Vu to me. Anyways Considering the fact post drinking effect. Its long held belief people drop their respective guards and let their emotions flow like Momentary Flood. I appreciate the writer's prowess for Observing such subtle moments of life and giving more insightful perspective of Human Behavior. Keep it up Miss Priyanka , I am sure You have long way to Go. Here is Doubles Thumbs Up. :)
ReplyDeletei agree.......
ReplyDeleteits just a platform used by a person
but sometimes we also use it as a tool....when you are drunk and you talk, the receieving end would take it in a way that "oh!! he was drunk" ..like not a big deal as he is not in his senses....People like ME use it to express things which i am afraid to when i am normal..
But yea...dont trust a persons word when he or she is on alcohol effect..its has a science as well..:)..will tell u later
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Priyanka Rai...its a a good read..though cant comment much because of the lack of experience..but what i feel is that we have built strong association between drinking and expressing ourselves...but is the true selves??? that's a question..as per me it is nonsense talks most of the time!! drinking is more of a celebration thing rather than a ' share your secret' serum!
ReplyDeleteNothing like a Truth Serum or 'Share your Secret' potion..basically it wrecks our senses and lets us enjoy the moment beyond disciplined, boring, routine hours.
ReplyDeleteWell, with zero decision making ability, we shouldnt term our talks as truths or lies, it might be fluke for some, can prove disaster for some :)
I am wondering what should I be writing here. Well, to begin with, everyone has their own opinion as I went through the aforesaid comments. I felt that I have had some serious confessions to make :P and it was possible only when I was inebriated, and believe me, I was at my 'sober' best. People behave differently when they are intoxicated, and so I guess the opinions here would differ too. But all in all, good work Priyanka!! :)
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